I’m really a tom boy at heart. When I was younger, I would buy boyish looking school shoes so that I could play kickball during recess without my shoes flying through the air and I would buy loose boy-fitting clothes. But, as I got older, my interests and styles began to change.
It was a mini teenage edition of an identity crisis. It was like, I wanted to buy new prettier and “girlier” shoes, but I wasn’t comfortable wearing them simply because I wasn’t used to them. The same goes with clothes. I wanted to buy more feminine looking clothes, but I wasn’t used to the tighter fit. And of course, I just felt uncomfortable wearing my new style because I wasn’t used to seeing myself look that way. It made me feel awkward. And then I wasn’t acting like myself because I didn’t feel like myself.
I wasn’t sure if I could be a girly-girl and be a tom boy at the same time. Could I mix those styles? The more I pushed myself out of my tom boy box, the more comfortable I became with wearing the tighter, more flattering clothes.
Whatever your style is, just know that it is okay to grow into something new.